The Nature of Bitterness ***

 Often I come across some writing that strikes a chord and will save it in a folder for further reading and study.  Here is one of such.  Who wrote it I do not know but is a good teaching lesson for me and possibly you also.

"Bitter feelings allow us to become perfect victims in that we no longer feel obliged to work toward healing. It is natural to feel resentment or anger when life does not unfold as expected. We consciously or unconsciously anticipated one experience, and we grieve for the loss of it when the universe puts something else in our path. Most of the time, we work through these feelings and they pass. Occasionally, our anger and resentment do not fade and are instead transformed into bitterness. Bitter feelings allow us to become perfect victims in that we no longer feel obliged to work toward healing and choose instead to identify with our pain. Yet as unwholesome as bitterness can be, it is also a natural element of our emotional palette. When we acknowledge that it is okay to feel bitter, we reconnect with our hurt in a constructive way and can begin the process of working through it.

The nature of bitterness is rooted in the fact that the pain we feel provides us with a rationale. We may feel that we deserve to embrace our bitterness to its full extent. And to be bitter is, in essence, to cut ourselves off from all that is positive, hardening our hearts and vowing never to let go of our hurt. But just as bitter feelings can be self-defeating, so too can the release of bitterness be life-affirming in a way that few other emotional experiences are. When we decide that we no longer want to be bitter, we are reborn into a world filled with delight and fulfillment unlike any we knew while in the clutches of bitterness. The veil it cast over our lives is lifted, letting light and warmth touch our souls.

Divesting yourself of bitter feelings can be as simple as truly forgiving and moving on. Even when your bitterness has no concrete object, you can forgive situations too. Healing pain can be challenging but may be easier if you remind yourself that you are the only entity truly affected by your emotional state. In time, you will discover that letting go of your bitterness frees you to initiate the healing process and allows you to once again celebrate the possibility of the more wonderful life you deserve."

Dahlia Wasfi *

 Anyone Who Supports War Needs To Listen To This -  Dahlia Wasfi

https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=OXE0C19LQAE

Thoughts from a Few ***

My belief was that if you gave all of yourself, to what you believed was right, then that would be enough. 
          _Jane Hawking



It is a lovely thing, finding yourself through the touch of someone else.
          _Meg



“We shall never know all the good that a simple smile can do.” 
          —Mother Teresa

Mahatma Gandhi***

A 'No' uttered from deepest conviction is better and greater than a'Yes' merely uttered to please, or what is worse, to avoid trouble.
                                                  

Everything Happens For a Reason ***

Everything Happens For a Reason.  Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there.
They serve some sort of purpose or help figure out who you are or who you want to become.
You never know who these people may be, your roommate, your neighbor, professor, long lost friend, lover or even a complete stranger who, when you lock eyes with them, you know that very moment that they will affect your life in some profound way.
And sometimes things happen to you and at the time seem horrible, painful and unfair, but in reflection you realize without overcoming these obstacles, you would never have realized your potential,  strength, your will power of heart.
Everything happens for a reason.  Nothing happens by chance or by means of good or bad luck.  Illness, injury, love, lost moments or true greatness and sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of the soul.
Without these small tests, if they be events, illnesses or relationships, life would be like a smooth paved road to nowhere, safe and comfortable but dull and utterly pointless.
The people you meet who affect your life and successes and downfalls you experience, they are the ones who create who you are.  Even the bad experience can be learned from...those lessons are the hardest and probably the most important ones.
If someone hurts you, betrays you or breaks your heart,  forgive them for they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to whom you open your heart.
If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally, not only because they love you, but because they are teaching you to love and opening your heart and eyes to things you would never have seen or felt without them.
Make every day count.  Make every moment count and take from it everything that you possibly can, for you may never be able to experience it again.
 Talk to people you have never talked to before, and actually listen; let yourself fall in love, break free and set your sights high.
 You can make of your life anything you wish.  Create your own life, then go out and live it.
I wish you all the best in your endeavors as well as struggles in life.  Have a fighting spirit and never hesitate to get back into the struggle.
Author unknown

Right Click It *

 7/29/14

My blog, this one, was deleted yesterday.  What a shock that was.  I was only working with my settings, changing a bit here, a tad there.  I got on Hermit's blog where mine is listed in his favorites list.  Clicked on it.  Again the same message "this blog has been deleted".  Cuss it!  I went back to Hermit's, did a right click.  Up my blog came but could do nothing with it except stare at the opening page.

Now, here I am tapping on the keyboard.  I expect the worst as usual seeing:  "This blog has been deleted".

I have no more clues how to fix matters as nothing has worked so far except the right click this time and my surprise at success.  We shall see.  "What will be, will be"  as Doris Day sang "Que Sera, Sera."  You probably never heard of Doris.  She was long before your time - most likely.  A beautiful clear voice that I loved to listen to.